'It's not a doctor's note, it's a Mommy note. Everyone in the office just stares at it': Manager shares story of an uppity employee and his over-involved Mommy

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jan 9, 2023 11:00 AM EST

One grocery store manager had an exasperating experience with "Ray," a young employee with a lot of entitlement at his very first job. The original OP (OOP) shared a series of cringey encounters that took place at her job, chronicled from over a decade ago. As a supervisor of a grocery store, she had to deal with a variety of personalities, and a lot of young people, since in her town, this place functioned as a lot of teenager's very first job. Enter "Ray," a new cashier who suddenly had many complaints about his new workspace. 

This manager shared the events as they happened from October to November, including an escalation with one of Ray's craziest family members. The post was even deemed a rare case of ESH, or "everyone sucks here," meaning everyone in the situation shared some blame for what went down. 

After you find out what's up with Mama's boy Ray, add your own opinion to the internet's collective Anti Bucket List of things we're never, ever, ever doing.

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    Font - r/r/BestofRedditorUpdates Posted by u/Sesshoboru 2 days ago Ray repeatedly sics his Mommy on his co-workers, OOP wants him to get fired.
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    Font - Ray calls his Mommy - October 2, 2012 We're a fairly small grocery store and we mainly employ kids in high school looking for an alternative to McDonalds for their first job. Usually they aren't a problem aside from the occasional drama fest or immature jokes. However we recently got this one boy working the register that just...just...ugh... He is 16 and has been here a few weeks. Let us call him Ray. Ray is the slowest cashier we have but insists on working our express lane so he doesn'
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    Font - Two things happened today that makes me think he needs to be fired. Number one, I was working office alone and here's Ray on register calling for me to pick up. Cashiers only do this if they have a problem. I have two lines and am currently counting a customer's $1547 for a money order. After I finish counting with three more calls from dear Ray I finally pick up. I still have about seven people combined in the two lines I'm running and had to ask them to wait just to talk to him. His big
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    Font - So I see this while I'm on break and he calls her lazy because she wouldn't stop what she was doing to come bag his probably 20-30 small items so he didn't have to. We have six cashiers and one bagger, if she's not at your register then you bag it yourself. Dem's da rules. Tired of this I go over and call him off his register. I explain to him that he has no right to speak like that to someone who a) is his elder, b) has seniority over him and c) isn't doing anything wrong. I pretty much
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    Font - The rest of the night goes by just fine but when I get ready to leave I see someone sitting out in their car. I walk outside a little wary being paranoid as always. There in the car is Ray and who I assume is his mother. She gets out and comes up to me in the parking lot and starts b about how I mistreated her son and I have no right to talk to him like that. Before answering I take a quick look. I'm off the store's property, off the clock, and out of uniform. Perfect. I rip this woman a
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    Font - Update in first post: Small update: So I talked to my manager about the issues we had with Ray. Turns out I'm not the first person that he sicked Mommy on. He did the same thing to my grandmother (who works with me and has been at this store for ten years now) because she caught him taking an hour break when for his schedule he's allowed one 15 minute break. Mommy met with her in the parking lot and complained that since my grandmother isn't a manager she has no right to tell her little b
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    Font - Top comment: • "Talk to your manager ASAP. before he does! Also, update us, I want to hear what happens to this kid." - OneoftheZombies OOP in the comments: • She looked sorry of stunned at first then he fire rose up behind her as she got over her shock Sadly she didn't say anything back but I kind of wish she did cause I was on a roll. She just stalked off to her car and left. • Responding to comment about ageism: "Actually, I get your point, instead of the age I should have just said he
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    Font - Update: Ray calls his Mommy - October 21, 2012 Sorry it took so long to update but there's a reason for the lateness. Update: So after this incident with Ray and his lovely mother we had more issues with dear Ray. He blew out his knee or something which isn't really a small thing so he was out of work for almost two weeks. When he's finally cleared to come back two things happen. The day he's scheduled to come back after his time off, he calls out. No notice before hand or anything but fo
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    Font - Number two. He comes in with a note the day after he called out. It reads that since he hurt his knee he can't stand for long periods of time and will require frequent breaks during his shift. It's not a doctors note, it's a Mommy note. Everyone in the office just stares at it with wtf written all over their faces. So as you can imagine my manager gets this and finally gets a taste of Ray's mommy dependance. He laughs it off and instead of scheduling Ray, he tells him to come in when he's
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    Font - My manager flips on her. We're not discriminating against anyone. Our cashiers stand for six hour shifts with one fifteen minute break as our state's labor law requires. We simply cannot have a cashier who needs to constantly get off his register to sit down whenever he feels the need to. It wouldn't be fair to the other cashiers nor would it be fair to the customers who would have to wait in lines due to a shortage of cashiers. There are no other jobs in the store that don't require cons
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    Font - This wasn't written by Ray. We can already tell by comparing the style of his previous notes and this one that it's from Mommy. The letter reads, and I quote: "Due to the unfair working conditions presented to me since my injury I, with great regret, have to inform you that I may have to seek other employment. I have tried my best to be a model employee but have been met with nothing but disrespectful and harsh treatment from my peers and managers. At this time I am only sharing this info
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    Font - That's just a small portion of the letter but seriously. WTF!! WTF WTF WTF WTF!!! What is in this woman's head!? Is she just high on her son's suckage or something? I honestly don't know...
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    Font - Top comment: • "[Entire quote from Ray's letter in bold] I have bolded the parts which were especially hilarious." - WeaponsGradeHumanity OOP in the comments: • "I think Ray's Mommy is (or was) a nurse but I'm not %100 on this. I know for a fact that his father is some sort of minister/preacher or something along those lines since he cashes his checks at my work." • "Sadly it's real. If I can I'll try and snag the letter for a photo. With all personal info erased of course." • "Actually R
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    Font - So far his father has had no involvement that we know of in this crazy soup and he still comes in like nothing's going on. We think either it's all Mommy that's insane or his father is in on it and just spies for her. Not sure what to expect from this weird family." • "Just seeing how he treated our bagger and how he broke a couple dozen of our rules when working for such a short time makes me think he has no respect."
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    Font - Final Update: Ray calls his Mommy- November 19, 2012 Sorry it had taken me so long to do this final update. Honestly, I had forgotten all about posting this up until I got a message from a helpful reddit member. You know who you are. Anyway here's the FINAL update of Ray and his Mommy. Why final? Cause Ray quit. Cue the bells, chorus of angels, and homemade cookies falling from the sky! Yep, he quit because of his "knee injury". Actually he quit because he had a new job at rue 21 for a fe
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    The letter here is super tiny, so scroll down to read the transcribed version.

    Font - Ray manageR Dear I greatly appreciate all the opportunities you have given me over my period of employment. My time here has been very educational and enjoyable. You, as a successful business owner, have been a great role model for me. This was my first job and it has shown me so much. Having to keep up with the high standers set forth by has prepared me to handle any situation that may arise in future employment. I also appreciate all the assistance offered by some of my fellow employees
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    Rectangle - Ray year for the duration of my employment, or promoted to a supervising position to ensure fair treatment. I have proved myself to be a stern, competent, and kind employee so I believe that a supervisor spot would be an excellent chance for me to teach my fellow employees. H Ray Sincerely,
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    Font - Ray's full letter, likely ghost-written by Mommy: Prepare your tiniest violins. Dear [manager], I greatly appreciate all the opportunites you have given me over my period of employment. My time here has been very educational and enjoyable. You, as a successful business owner, have been a great role model for me. This was my first job and it has shown me so much. Having to keep up with the high standers set forth by [redacted] has prepared me to handle any situation that my arise in future
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    Font - Since working here I have had to deal with constant abuse from several of my coworkers. It escalated to a point where I became too depressed to come into work for fear that I would simply be berated again. The bagger [Indian employee's name] has been exceptionally rude to me since my first day. She tries to talk to me during working hours and half the time I cannot understand her. I do not abide by slacking off during my shift so I have told her several times to not talk to me but she jus
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    Font - I personally think that [OOP] has informed her family working there, [name] and [name], to try and make things harder for me so I will quit and they can higher [OOP]'s younger sister. The only one of these three that is actually a manager is [name]. She is the only person I see as having any authority at the store besides yourself and Mr. [redacted]. However she is the only person that has not talked to me about these nonexistent issues. Given my kind nature I did not want to call these w
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    Font - The last day I planned to take off was for my niece [redacted]'s christening. It was a big day for my family and they needed my there to help and support them. I know I had called and told [OOP] of this plan before the schedules were made for that week. She assured me that she would put in a note for me, being that my knee was preventing me from coming in personally. I do not think I should be punished for her mistakes. I say mistakes because I do not want to accuse her of any wrong-doing
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    Font - I have tried my best to be a model employee but have been met with nothing but disrespectful and harsh treatment from my peers and managers. At this time I am only sharing this information is hopes that the cost of losing such a hardworking, dedicated employee will encourage a change in the current situation. If I am to continue working here I would expect some form of compensation for the unjust behavior I have dealt with so far. This compensation is suggested to be but not limited to: a
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    Font - Top comment: • "I love when people try to make an intelligent sounding letter but overlook using the word 'higher' in the place of 'hire'. Someone was trying very hard." - deleted user OOP in the comments: • Surprised you guys didn't catch the "writing with" part in start of the last paragraph. • I didn't mean written like by hand. It's the wording and the sheer length of the letter that gives it away as mommy written. If you could have seen his other notes you'd understand why it's so ea
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    Now that you've read the letter, just get ready to hear about the worker's reaction to this entitled screed:

    Font - (BORU note: Full letter below this update to make it easier to read) So just to clarify, I never got a phone call regarding Ray's needed day off for his niece's christening so he pretty much just blamed me for it. My boss asked everyone how he should reply to this letter. Half of us, me included, suggested three pages each just containing a single "lol" right in the center. The other half just wanted him fired. Ray beat my manager to the punch and ended up quitting a few days after the le
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    The comments turned into a Ray roast session.

    Font - janecdotes 2 days ago Screeching on the Front Lawn He's 26. Honestly, I bet he's never kept a job or a partner for longer than a couple of months and still has his mommy fight all his battles. By this point he's probably given up attempting employment in favour of his ambition to be a professional twitch streamer, and mommy shows off how her son's an influencer because he has 3 subscribers.
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    Font - 20 NixyVixy 2 days ago This dude is not married... how would any woman make it past his crazy Mom? Also, Ray has nothing to offer to anyone as a contributing partner.
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    Font - Agreeable_Rabbit3144 19 hr. ago I would be shocked if any man or women is stupid enough to be with him.
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    Font - AngelicIcy Rose - 2 days ago I actually got a laugh from this. Ray seems entitled as heck but having his mom write the notes is just the icing. Im lucky not to have seen this at my work [server] though probably would laugh if i did and probably just shake my head.
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    Font - Tut557 2 days ago While Ray looks like a really entitled and s employee, I'm always baffled of places where cashier have to stand up their whole shift, give them a chair for goodness sake
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